Friday, June 18, 2010

“The Gospel Commandments of Leadership”

Can't Remember Where I picked these up, but they are good.


The following “Ten Commandments” by an unknown author, have been adapted and supplemented with Scripture passages to further enhance their great truths.

1. People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered. Love and trust them anyway. “Father forgive them. They know not what they do.” (Luke 23:34)

2. If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives. Do good anyway. “And Jesus told them, ‘you are like children who don’t know what they want. John the Baptist came neither eating nor drinking, and you said he had a demon. The Son of Man comes eating and drinking, and you say I am a glutton, a friend of sinners.’” (Matthew 11:16-19)

3. If you are successful you will win false friends and true enemies. Succeed anyway. The crowds who cheered Him on Sunday and called Him King were the same who on Friday cried, “Crucify Him.” Even the priests said, “We have no king but Caesar.” (Luke 19:36-40; John 10:1-6)

4. The service you render today will be forgotten tomorrow. Serve people anyway. “Were not ten lepers cleansed, and only one returned to give thanks? My words will bring division.” (Luke 17:11-19)

5. Honesty and frankness will make you vulnerable. Be honest and frank anyway. “And Jesus said, ‘Do not think I’ve come to bring peace to the world.’” (Luke 12:51; 13:5)

6. The biggest men with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men with the smallest ideas. Think big anyway. “During the supper the Lord Jesus foretold that one of them would betray Him . . . .the disciples questioned which one it might be, and a dispute rose among them as to which was the greatest.” (Luke 22:22-24)

7. People pretend to love the “little” people, but sell their souls to the “big” people. Fight for the “little” people anyway. “Let little children come unto me, for of such is the kingdom of heaven.” (Matthew 19:13-14)

8. What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight. Build anyway. “Judas came, kissed Him, and they took hold of Him . . . then all the disciples forsook Him and fled.” (Matthew 26:36-56)

9. People really need help, but may attack you if you do help. Help people anyway. “The Spirit of the Lord is upon me. . . to preach’ .. . but all who heard Him thrust Him out.” (Luke 4:16-30)

10. Give the world the best you have and you’ll get kicked in the teeth. Give the world the best you have anyway. “Pilate said, ‘Who shall I give unto you . . . the murderer and robber, Barabbus, or Jesus, who is called the Christ?’ And they all cried, ‘Give us Barabbus!’” (Matthew 27:15-27)

Tuesday, June 15, 2010

John Quincy Adams at 80

John Quincy Adams, the sixth President of the United States, was walking down a street one afternoon, and a friend walked up to him and said, "How is John Quincy Adams today?" Now at this moment, John Quincy Adams was 80 years old, long in the tooth, feeble in body, but this is the way he answered.

He said, "Thank you for asking. John Quincy Adams is quite well, but the house in which he is living is becoming rather dilapidated. In fact, it will soon be quite unlivable and I shall have to move out any day now. But John Quincy Adams is doing quite well, thank you."

Now John Quincy Adams had learned a very valuable lesson, and that is, there was a difference between him and the house that he lived in.

How are you? Not the house you live in, but your Spirit? How is your relationship with the Lord?

Thursday, June 10, 2010

I Love My Church

"Satan's Beatitudes." If the devil were to write his Beatitudes they would probably go something like this:
- Blessed are those who are too tired, too busy, too distracted to spend an hour once a week with their fellow Christians--they are my best workers.
- Blessed are those Christians who wait to be asked, and expect to be thanked--I can use them.
- Blessed are the touchy. With a bit of luck they may stop going to church--they are my missionaries.
- Blessed are the troublemakers--they shall be called my children.
- Blessed are the complainers--I'm all ears to them.
- Blessed are they who are bored with the minister's mannerisms and mistakes--for they get nothing out of his sermons.
- Blessed is the church member who expects to be invited to his own church--for he is part of the problem instead of the solution.
- Blessed are they who gossip--for they shall cause strife and divisions that please me.
- Blessed are they who are easily offended--for they will soon get angry and quit.
- Blessed are they who do not give their offering to carry on God's work--for they are my helpers.
- Blessed is he who professes to love God, but hates his brother and sister--for he shall be with me forever.
- Blessed are you when you hear this and think it is about other people and not yourself--I've got you.

As I thought about that list, two things immediately hit me.
• Number one: I can honestly say I have been pastor of every one of those types of church members.
• Number two: What the church desperately needs is more members who simply love their church.

But not only love their church, but love their church the way God loves the church. You see, God loves the church sacrificially. He gave His Son for it. God loves the church unconditionally-- when He's pleased with it and when He is not pleased with it. God loves His church eternally.

Wednesday, June 9, 2010

Just One More Word on Friendship

The late Erma Bombeck said, “A friend is somebody who won’t go on a diet when you’re fat.”

Someone else said, “A friend is someone who multiplies your joys and divides your grief.”

But the best definition I have ever read is this one, “A friend is someone who will walk into your house when the whole world has just walked out.”

Ben Franklin said, "Be slow in choosing a friend, slower in changing a friend."

Someone else wrote this: "I love you not only for what you are, but what I am when I am with you. I love you not only for what you are making yourself, but what you are making me." A friend is someone who will make you a better person. It is someone who will draw you closer to the Lord.

All of us have relationships, and with few exceptions, success in life depends on the ability to establish and maintain proper relationships with the right people. Relationships can make your child or break your child (and you for that matter). Proverbs 12: 26 tells us, “The righteous should choose his friends carefully, for the way of the wicked leads them astray.” Be friendly to everyone, but don’t have everyone as a friend. I think it is fair to say that there are people in hell today because they chose the wrong friends.

Tuesday, June 8, 2010

Practical steps on being a BFF

First of all, a real friend is willing to tell you the truth. Prov. 27:9 says, "Ointment and perfume delight the heart, and the sweetness of a man's friend does so by hearty counsel." You see, a real friend will tell you the truth no matter what you ask him. He may not always tell you what you want to hear, but he will always tell you what you need to hear, and he will tell you not to hurt you, but will tell you to help you.

When I go to the doctor and he examines me. If there is something wrong with me, I want to know the truth. If he is my friend, he will tell me the truth, not to hurt me but to help me.

Furthermore, a real friend is willing to confront you when you are wrong. Now a genuine friend will never criticize you behind your back, but if necessary, he will confront you to your face. He will never condemn you when you are wrong, but he will confront you so that he might correct you and help make you right.

Prov. 27:6 says, "Faithful are the wounds of a friend, but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful." You see, Judas kissed Jesus, but Judas was not his friend.

You need to remember that one of the reasons why God brings a friend into your life, is to sharpen off rough edges that you might have so that you can be all that you can be for His glory and honor. Prov. 27:17 says, "As iron sharpens iron, so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend." Now you don't sharpen an axe on a pound of butter, and a real friend will have a sharpening correcting influence on your life.

I will be forever convinced that Richard Nixon lost his presidency because he didn't have one true friend around him. He did not have one person who early on could have said, would have said, and should have said, "Mr. President, this is wrong. You cannot do this. You must do what is right and uphold the law and the Constitution no matter what." One friend could have saved his presidency.

Also, a true friend is willing to bring comfort when you're hurting. It is amazing how many people are willing to be around when you're laughing, but few people come around when you're crying. Did you know that the Indian word for friend translated into English means, "One who carries my sorrows on his back."

Finally, a real friend is someone who is willing to bring light to the dark. That is, a real friend is someone who will talk to you about Jesus if you're lost, and if you need to be saved. You see, the best friend you will ever have is a friend who loves Jesus and who wants you to love Jesus too.

You think about this. If heaven is real, and if hell is real, then no person can possibly be your friend who does not care whether you spend eternity in heaven or hell. If you are truly a friend of a sinner, you cannot rest until you have at least given that person an opportunity to receive Jesus Christ as his Lord and as his Savior.
Rosalie Carter wrote a poem once entitled, Only God Gives a Friend, and it goes like this:

I think that God will never send
a gift so precious as a friend;
A friend who always understands
and fills each need as it demands.

Whose loyalty will stand the test
when skies are bright or overcast;
Who sees the faults that merit blame
but keeps on loving just the same.

Who does far more than creeds could do
to make us good, to make us true;
Earth's gifts a sweet contentment lend
but only God can give a friend.

Only God can give a friend, and the greatest friend God will ever give you is the Lord Jesus Christ. John 15:13 says, "Greater love has no one than this, than to lay down one's life for his friends." What a friend we have in Jesus, because Jesus laid down His life when we were His enemies, so that we through faith in Him could become His friend. There is nothing like a friend, and there is no friend like Jesus and those who love Him.

A True Friend (Part 3)

A true friendship is a loving relationship. You see, a real friend is not only someone who likes you, it's someone who loves you. Prov. 17:17 says, "A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity." A real friend is someone who wants to be a friend to you, not because of what you can do for them, but for what they can do for you. There are some people who are your friends as long as it is convenient.

I heard about a little boy who walked into the dentist's office with a friend of his, and he said, "Doc, I've got a tooth that's got to come out right now and I don't want any gas, I don't want any Novocain, I don't want any shots to deaden the pain. My friend and I have got a lot of things we want to do today and I just want to get down to business and get this tooth out right now."

The doctor said, "Son, I have never seen a young man with courage like yours. Which tooth is it? The little boy turned to his friend and said, "Show him your tooth, Tommy."

Well, in a real friendship, your friend will always want what is best for you, not what is best for himself.

Sunday, June 6, 2010

A True Friend (Part 2)

"But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother." I want to tell you, there is not enough gold in Fort Knox, nor enough oil in Saudi Arabia to buy that type of friendship. When I think about a real friend, a true friend, a friend that really deserves to be a friend, I realize from this scripture what kind of a relationship it should be.

A true friendship will be a loyal relationship. The word "stick" refers to how the skin sticks to the bone, and this is a picture of how a real friend will stick closer to you through thick and thin than your skin will stick to your own bone. One thing you will never have to question about a friend is his loyalty.

A true friend will always be your defense attorney before he will become your judge.

You see, one of the marks of a friend is that though he may point out your faults from time to time, he will overlook them and never let them come between you. Henry Ward Beecher once said, "You ought to keep a big cemetery in your backyard where you can bury the faults of your friends." I've got news for you. You cannot eat your friends and have them too.

Somebody has said that the reason why a dog has so many friends is because he wags his tail instead of his tongue. If a person is truly your friend, you will never have to worry about what they will say behind your back.
Diana Craik put it so well when she said these words:

Oh the comfort--
The inexpressible comfort
of feeling safe with a person;
Having neither to weigh thoughts
Nor measure words--but pouring them
all right out--just as they are--
Chaff and grain together--
Certain that a faithful friend will
take them and sift them--
Keeping what is worth keeping--
and with a breath of kindness
Blow the rest away.

Somebody has said that if everybody knew what everybody else said about them behind their back, nobody would have more than four friends in all the world. That is probably true. Prov. 16:28 says, "A perverse man sows strife, and a whisperer separates the best of friends."

Saturday, June 5, 2010

A True Friend (Part 1)

A true friendship will stand the test of time, trials, and troubles. There's no such thing as a "fair-weather friend." As a matter of fact, you know what I have learned? I don't need friends in fair weather, I need friends in foul weather. A fair-weather friend is truly no friend at all.

A false friend is just like your shadow. As long as the sun is shining, he sticks right by you. But the minute you step into the shade, he disappears.

I was thinking about what a real friend really is, and I came across several that are worth noting:
• A friend is someone who multiplies your joys and divides your grief.
• A friend is a watch which beat true for all time, and never runs down.
• Irma Bombeck said, "A friend is some-body who won't go on a diet when you're fat."
• But this is my favorite definition: A friend is someone who will walk into your house when the whole world has just walked out.
• That is my favorite definition. Friendship lasts through thick, through thin, through hot, through cold, through good, through bad. There is a friend who "sticks" closer than a brother.

Charles Colson tells the story of how soon after being released from prison, he was the guest speaker at George Washington University. He was speaking to a very hostile crowd there in Washington, DC. Questions were being thrown at him rapid-fire, and the crowd was becoming increasingly angry.

One student stood up and referred to a vicious criticism that Henry Kissinger had leveled at Richard Nixon. Then he asked Chuck Colson this question: "Do you agree with this criticism?" Chuck Colson said as he scanned the room, he could tell every ear was listening and every eye was watching to see what he would say.

He took a deep breath, set his jaw, looked straight into the crowd and said, "We all know Mr. Nixon's negative qualities. He's been dissected in the press like nobody in history. I could tell you his good points, but I don't believe I could persuade you to accept them. But what it comes down to is, "No, I don't go along with Henry Kissinger's comments. Mr. Nixon is my friend, and I don't turn my back on my friends."

Colson said for an instant he thought the roof would cave in, and it did, but not like he expected. After a moment of silence, the students stood up and gave him a prolonged standing ovation. Because even they could appreciate loyalty to a friend.
If you want to find out who your friends really are, I can tell you very easily how to do it - just make a mistake. Somebody has said, "In prosperity our friends know us, but in adversity we know our friends."

A true friend doesn't allow others to put us down, but defends us.

Thursday, June 3, 2010

Moths, Lions, and Silence

In Hosea 5, we read of the consequences of spiritual adultery, spiritual immorality. When God’s people put other things ahead of Him, when they go after other gods instead of being faithful to the one true God, the God their Savior, there is a series of consequences--unbelievable pictures.

Look at verse 12. This is God talking. "There will I be unto Ephraim as a moth… Have you ever sat outside on a warm summer night. You have the porch light on and a moth comes around that light. Just flittering and fluttering. Nothing big, just a moth tormenting, staying at him, working with him. Has God been to you like a moth? Have things come into your life that just sort of bug you? It may be God's moth to wake you up.

Look at the second picture in verse 14. "For I will be unto Ephraim as a lion….” There is a big difference between a moth and a lion, wouldn’t you say? The moth is pesky, but the lion is ferocious. The lion comes swiftly, suddenly. The lion comes reeking havoc. Has God tried to get your attention through some pretty traumatic things in your life? But some still get away from the lion.

Here's the most terrible of all in verse 15. God says, "I will go and return to my place, till they acknowledge their offense….” If you get away from the lion, God says, “I’ll go away.” Why? Because you have neglected the relationship—you have pushed him out. If you are no longer feeling the “moth of God” bothering you when you are not being faithful to Him in things; or when the stuff of life is “roaring like a lion” in your life because you are not where you know you should be, at least you know God’s presence. But what about when He goes away?

How long does He go away? Verse 15, “’til they seek my face...” God says—then I'll go back where I came from until they come to their senses. When they finally hit rock bottom, maybe they'll come looking for me.

Believers in America, how long until you return?

Wednesday, June 2, 2010

God Sees our Motive

For His Eyes Only
Matthew 6:1-4

If you have ever gone for a job interview, one of the questions that you will be asked is something like this: "Tell me what you have done in the past that would qualify you for this job?" Or, they may ask you something like this: "What character qualities do you have that would make me want to hire you?"
But if you will think back to any job interview you have ever had you were never asked this question: "Why do you do what you do?" When people try to size us up and find out what kind of persons we are, they go to our methods, but never to our motives.

I heard about a young lady who wrote this sweet note to her ex-fiancée, whose heart she had broken a year before. It said:

Dear John,
I have been unable to sleep since we broke off our engagement. It has shattered me. I just cannot live any longer without you. Won't you forgive and forget? Your absence is breaking my heart. I was a fool to leave you. Nobody can take your place. I love you so much. Please call soon. I wait anxiously by the telephone to hear your voice.
Love Always,
Donna
Then she added this:
P.S. Congratulations on winning the $6 million lottery!

Now when we judge people, or even judge ourselves, we tend to look at the body of the letter and don't pay much attention to the P.S. That is how we are so different from God because we look at the "what" where God looks at the "why." We look at "how much" God looks at "how." We judge a person by "their methods" God judges a person by "their motive."

Remember the Sermon on the Mount is telling us, truth by truth, "the only way to live." The Lord Jesus is going to spend almost the entire chapter before us, teaching us that the only way to live is to live without hypocrisy. Here He deals with the area of giving to the poor; doing things for other people. He makes three simple statements to remind us that when we give to others, or do for others, it is to be "for His eyes only."